Transition. Change. The ebb and flow of human life. An inescapable reality.
Transition can be positive or negative, and often embraces both with equal passion. Transition cares nothing for our thoughts, plans or dreams – it is not an entity of human emotion – it is a given fact.
Ironically, transition is one property of existence that never changes –
It happens to everyone – to everything – everywhere.
All the time.
Transition cannot be stopped – it forces a choice
The first strategic key to surviving transition is found in moving beyond the initial shock, refusing negative thoughts that arise and choosing to embrace the full array of experiences introduced, with a progressive mind. In fact, resisting change is often a icy slope aimed at a brick wall. Either way – the choice to crash into the wall or march forward is always yours.
Consider the impact of a newborn. An infant heralds transition packed with unquantifiable and unlimited potential. A new beginning loaded with fresh responsibilities.
The innocent eyes of the newborn, fed and calmed at 2 a.m., makes us up our game, shift our mental strategies, mature and grow. An opportunity to live above our best, strive beyond our imagined limits – a chance for personal renaissance.
As the child grows and matures they will teach us as much about ourselves as we will teach them. And in that symbiotic exchange, our inner selves will be revealed and tested. Our beliefs. Our patterns of thought. Our inner motivations. Exposed and refined.
Consider friends, the people closest to us. Each will impact our lives and world view. Our ideals, aspirations, and inspirations. Perhaps even our compulsions and habits.
We change others and ourselves all the time – and often, such transpires with minimal notice.
Ever gone to an family event, a class reunion or a gathering of long-parted friends and thought:
“Wow, everyone is so different!”
- Cousin Ralph used to smack me in the face with his three-foot ponytail, but here he is ten years later, balder than the hood of a freshly washed car.
- My high school nemesis, Sally,
stolemade every boy I liked follow her like the Pied Piper, but at our fifteen year class reunion she wept to me about how some floozy stole her spouse.
- As a kid, my brother’s friend Johnny used to put gum in my hair and flush my Barbie’s heads down the toilet, now he’s holding my hair while I pray to the porcelain after imbibing to much at my brother’s wedding.
We notice these changes and shifts because there is a gap between Event A and Event B. Yet, when we look at ourselves, it is an endless string. No gaps to notice, and so, we don’t. At least until change compels us to take a look – or compels someone else to bounce it off our
skull reality, hopefully, someone with our continued best interest in mind.
Not all transitions are kind or desired. Let’s refer to these as loss. Loss of a friend. Loss of a pet. Loss of a job. Loss of something we held dear – and it does not have to be something that anyone else would see as precious. Loss is always personal.
And yet, loss, in reality, is nothing more than the unending force and momentum of change.
Like everyone, I am in a state of transition. Some positive and progressive. Some less so, albeit, the latter often originate from sources beyond my control.
Lesson Learned: By taking charge of the way we choose to approach and move through times of change, we reduce the negative impact of events beyond our control, turning the experience into a positive.
This new series will be dedicated to sharing lessons learned, observations, tips, tricks and strategies for handling the constant string of changes we all face.
One caveat: I am not a psychologist or psychiatrist. Rather, I am a traveler on the same road. It is my hope that we can share our journeys and experiences with each other.
When we stand and share together, we are strongest and our chances of success rise exponentially – before a phoenix claims the sky it must first rise from the ashes of transition. Let’s help ignite each others inner phoenix and claim the heights.
One thing to consider: While transition is an unstoppable force, failure is a non-existent one -
We only “fail” when we do nothing, and the moment we take action, then we are not “failing” any longer.
One action we can all take is found in Community – the second strategic key. Community is a stable skeleton. It is pulsing blood rushing life to starving organs. Genuine community is the mightiest power our species possesses. It can also be the hardest thing to find.
One incredible community, to which I am honored to belong, are the WANA’s – which stands for, “We Are Not Alone.” And indeed, if you are looking for a community of progressively-minded individuals weathering and succeeding in the sea of transition – the WANA’s are the best choice I’ve found on the planet. You can find out more about WANA by clicking here or on the logo below.
There will be no set schedule for this series. Right now is the beginning, I’ll end it when I stop transitioning *smiles*
Some posts will deal with specific types of transition and strategies for handling them. Others will suggest books, sites and classes for helping us make the most of our upswings and overcoming the downswings. Others, I hope, will be in response to your comments and experiences.
I’ll be announcing a few shifts of direction for myself and the blog over the next couple of days. Stay tuned.
Is transition something you tend to embrace or does the thought make you cringe? Have you been through a transition that looked devastating at first glance but turned out to be an incredible opportunity? I’d love to hear your thoughts!